Many women, like myself,
have given too much imagination and importance on the idea of ”He Likes Me !”
Based on my observations and the insights of many male relationship coaches,
when a man says: “ I like you!”
actually , it doesn’t mean much.

Liking someone can come easily and naturally,
it costs nothing, and involves no responsibility…

He may like your appearance,
enjoy your conversation,
and appreciate the atmosphere while you get together for a brief moment.

But that doesn’t necessarily mean he wants to establish a solid relationship with you.

“Choosing you with clear intentions.” is more of a sign that he truly is interested in you and values you.

When a man truly values you,
every choice he makes
carries efforts,emotions, and sacrifice…

Choose to share with you his limited free time and energy;
Choose to check in with you when it’s inconvenient just so that you can feel at ease;
Choose to offer understanding and patience even when you’re not at your best;
Choose to listen to how your day goes, even when he’s exhausted after a long hustling day…

Choose to let you see the vulnerable moments and bravely reveal more of his true colors;
Choose to dig his heels by your side even when things become difficult and uncomfortable…

Hundreds and thousands of men may say
“I like you.”
but not every man will “choose you with commitment.”

A man who “chooses you with commitment”
will not adopt a “wait-and-see” attitude , waiting to see how the relationship unfolds.

A man who “chooses you with commitment”
will demonstrate consistency through his attitude, actions, and focus,
guiding you and leading this relationship toward a positive and beautiful outcome bit by bit.

The right man–who genuinely chooses you,
will give you clear and unambiguous signals.
He will never keep you guessing day after day…
“What exactly is going on right now?”
“Am I good enough?”
“What exactly is our relationship?”
“Is this relationship even worth keeping?”

Dear sisters,
We honestly don’t need to waste our energy,lower our worth and standards ,
just to wait endlessly for a man to choose us…
Wouldn’t you agree?

A mature man, a man who is right for you,
knows what he wants and takes corresponding actions to get it!
He doesn’t need to be persuaded or talked into it.

Deep down, he knows a woman worth pursuing won’t just stand around waiting for him forever.
Isn’t it ?

If he says “ I like you.” but always keep you wondering and guessing…
Then perhaps, he isn’t the right fit for you.
Don’t be fooled just because he once claimed
“I like you.”

Have you ever had a similar experience?
Or do you also want to break free from this frustrating dilemma?
Feel free to leave us a comment so we can explore this together.
Wishing everyone
Love well and love much. 😘

— Author: Angel Liang
— Translated by Angel Liang &Haru

(Pictures by Lan Xin)

Chinese version:
. 他喜歡我！」的迷思⋯