這幾天碰巧聽到身邊年輕人閒聊的話題，
「關於選擇感情上的伴侶，
你理想的條件是什麼？」
I happened to overhear a conversation among young people around me the other day:

“What are your ideal criteria for choosing a romantic partner?”

我的思緒一下子回到我20幾歲的時候。
My thoughts immediately drifted back to the time in my twenties.

是啊，我們都曾懷抱期待，
列出一串「眼睛看得見的」條件。

Yes, we had all been there,
had expectations,
and listed a bunch of “visible” criteria …

但隨著年紀漸長，
感情上走過幾回高低起伏，
關係上體驗過幾次刻骨銘心⋯

As I’ve grown older,
experienced several ups and downs in my relationships,
had a few unforgettable romantic or heartbreaking encounters…

那些肉眼可見的條件，
依然有其重要性；
但再也取代不了
「更深層的東西」所帶來的價值….

Those visible criteria still matter in some ways,
however,
they can no longer replace the value brought by something deeper.

如果一定要把所謂的「條件」，
淬煉成「一個概念」的話⋯

我想說：
請選擇那個
「會一直選擇你的人」吧！

If I must extract these so-called “criteria” into
“one concept”…

I would say:
Please , choose the one who will always choose you.

讓我們來聊聊「一直選擇你」
到底是什麼意思
Let’s talk about what does it mean
by always choosing you.

💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝

💖關於真正值得等待的愛
About the kind of love worth waiting for

找一個真心想要你、珍惜你的人。
Find yourself someone who truly wants you.

不論你多久才回訊息，
都依然期待你的消息。
Someone who looks forward to your texts,
no matter how long they take to arrive.

即使在你最混亂、最情緒化的時候，也依然懂你，選擇試著理解你。
Someone who gets you, tries to understand you ,
even on your wildest days.

發生爭執時，願意溝通，而不是轉身離開。
Someone who’s ready to talk things through
after a disagreement, not just walk away.

對的人會看見你的全部：混亂、情緒起伏、不可預測，
卻仍然每天選擇你。

The right person will see all of you —
the chaos, the moods,
the unpredictable moments —
and still choose you every single day.

⸻

💝愛，不只是感覺，更是選擇

Love is more than a feeling — it’s a choice.

愛不只是愛情本身，
而是選擇一個也同樣選擇你、
接納你所有複雜面向的人。

It’s about more than just love;
it’s about choosing someone who chooses you back,
in all your complexity.

對於你的怪癖，不只是接納而已，
更因為那些特質，而更愛你。

Someone who doesn’t just tolerate your quirks
but loves you all the more for them.

對的人會明白，
愛不是完美無缺，
而是在彼此的凌亂中，
依然剛剛好的彼此相容。

The right one understands that
love isn’t about being perfect;
it’s about being perfect for each other, mess and all.

那才是值得等待的愛。

That’s the kind of love that’s worth waiting for.

看見真實不躲藏的你，
從而因此更深地愛著你。

The kind that sees the real you and loves you even more for it…

🙋🏻‍♀️祝福我們每一位，
都得到、都經營出
這樣值得的關係，
好好愛, 好好幸福。

🙋🏻‍♀️May each and every one of us
find and cultivate such worthwhile relationships,
Stay in love and stay with happiness .

(圖片提供:蘭心 / (Pictures by Lan Xin)