The most unbearable thing in a relationship. . . .
The saddest thing in a relationship…
There’s nothing worse than the fact that you really want to be with him, but he doesn’t want to be with you, or even has nothing to do with you anymore. . .
Maybe you are going through something like this and are feeling the pain deeply…
Or, you understand the kind of heartache I am talking about…
I would like to express my support and love to you here
My dear, you are not alone.
I think, in addition to giving yourself time and space to heal,
I also want to share some key points that are very useful to me.
I hope it helps you heal better, and perhaps,faster.
These methods cannot take away the pain of sadness.
But I hope they help you move forward more solidly and heal more peacefully.
First of all, the first key is… [Accept the facts! ]
If we had a magic wand, we would definitely want to wave it and make all our beautiful wishes come true. How wonderful it would be!
But the fact is that we have no magic, and the existing facts cannot be reversed. .
When we keep fighting against the facts, we increase our entanglements and pain.
Don’t think about “What if …..it could be better” or “If I had……., would the ending be different?”
These thoughts will only torture your emotions and hurt yourself again and again.
So when we find ourselves resisting the facts again or constantly thinking about them,
Tell yourself: “No, I refuse to torture myself!” I have to accept the facts before I can start embracing positive changes and build a better me!』
The second key is to [allow yourself to truly experience the various feelings in your heart and acknowledge their existence. ]
Allow yourself to recognize “Okay, this is not what I imagined…” “Okay! This relationship really cannot go to the end…』
“I admit that I feel very hurt and lost. The ending is not what I expected…” “Yes, I was left behind…”
Only by acknowledging these feelings and accepting them can we truly let go of them and truly embark on the journey of healing.
However, please don’t confuse accepting your true feelings with wallowing in sadness.
Do you know? Human nature is very interesting⋯
When love has gone, and only “sadness” is left as our only connection with the past,
sometimes people will dwell in sadness and don’t want to come out just to hold on to the only remaining connection there is.
However, such a choice is a huge obstacle to “helping myself to get better completely and regain my confidence and self worth .”
So be careful not to fall into such an emotional trap!
The third key is to [reshape our perceptions of facts]
Our feelings are often affected by our perceptions.
If we think that we are the one who has been abandoned in this relationship, then we will feel extremely unworthy and heartbroken.
Or, if we believe that because we are not good enough, so he chooses someone else, which is even more heart-wrenching and sad. . .
However, this is not necessarily the truth !
There are too many factors that affect the development of a relationship.
You have absolute freedom and power to tell yourself an empowering story of the relationship.
Create for yourself a perception that is good for you and can help you overcome the pain.
Look at the reasons why each other is not suitable objectively, and tell yourself, “I have truly given my best, but because…,going separate ways is the best thing for me.”
Life is really precious, and some endings may not be beautiful.
But taking the shortest time to figure things out, let go, and move on to a more suitable person and future of our lives
can be perhaps the greatest thing for us in the long run….
I know it’s hard to think like this when you’re still sad…
But please promise yourself that you will try, rewrite your perceptions, and be kind to yourself, okay?
The fourth key is to believe that “he is not the only person in the world who can make me happy, there is someone more suitable for me waiting for me!” 】
Do you believe it? Sometimes our difficulty in letting go may not be due to how perfect the other person is.
It’s because we are used to his existence and are attached to the relationship and habits we had with the person.
When we calm down and pause the endless playback of the past, we may be surprised to realize that
in this relationship,
there are still many shortcomings. Maybe what we want is more than what he can give.
So, don’t think that he is the only one. There are many beautiful people in the world, waiting to meet you.
The fifth key is to “take the beauty and inspiration from this relationship and let it become nutrients to nourish your life”
When we go through heartbreak, there comes a time when we focus on all the sad things only.
But the fact is that there are not all bad in a relationship;
There are always things that make us learn new experiences, discover different perspectives, and experience different observations or perceptions…
Or, it allows us to see different aspects of ourselves and discover inner changes that are different from the past…
Life is a journey that keeps moving forward. Although a relationship cannot always end with “the prince and the princess lived happily ever after”,
But if you search carefully and honestly, you will definitely find the hidden gifts, which will become a blessing for you to keep moving forward.
There is a saying that I like very much. Over the years, I have always used it to remind myself…
[No matter what happens, let us remember the experience and forget the pain; let us take in the beauty without leaving scars. ]
So,my dear you,
May you embrace yourself with gentleness and kindness.
Help yourself grow through it all and become even more precious!
Get out of the bondage of heartbreaks and pain, and move on to the abundant future waiting for you ahead!
I’ll be there with you. 👭
🙋🏻♀️May God bless us.
With Love,
Angel
